Amazing Mothers Without Custody

There are 2 types of men in this world. Men who are willing to destroy a woman because she wronged him, and men who are not. I've talked to men who had information that could ruin their ex-wife and bury her, but they didn't use it. Why? Because they didn't want to harm the mother of their children. Every time this conversation happened, I couldn't help but compare it to my own situation. My ex nearly destroyed me. If the custody battle had happened at any other point, he wouldn't have stood a chance in hell at winning. Quit frankly, I'm Supermom. However, at the time of the custody battle I was going through a hard time. The universe handed him his case on a silver platter, and he made the decision in how he would proceed. He knew I was in a bad state, and fully exploited it.  The custody battle happened at a time when I was going through very bad postpartum depression with my 2nd child, and I hadn't fully recovered from my first bout of it wit...

It is a myth that you can't raise successful children in a divorce without co-parenting. It's completely possible, it just takes a little more of an effort. My children's father and I are the poster couple for parents who love their kids more than we hate each other. We cannot get along, and that makes it impossible to co-parent effectively. Instead of co-parenting, we both invest as much of ourselves into our kids as humanly possible, and keep the kids out of the fighting.  This is how we do it: We don't co-parent, we just can't. Every single one of our discussions devolves into bickering, gaslighting and blame games. For that reason, we ONLY communicate through one medium- email. We don't talk in front of the kids, we don't talk on the phone, and we don't text. We never tried the parenting apps, but email works well for us. I'll only call him very rarely, and only when it's absolutely necessary. If one of us does something the other...