We're All Mad Here

Were you accused of being crazy during your custody battle?

Were you accused of doing drugs?

Were you accused of being a danger to your children?

Were you accused of being physically abusive? 

Did you have a restraining order taken out against you?

Were you arrested for 'violating' a restraining order?

Were you accused of parental alienation?

Guess what, this is par for the course of every contentious custody battle. Anything can be taken and sensationalized and blown out of proportion. 
This is the reality of family court.
You are not alone.

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